An amazing thing has happened to me these past couple of weeks. My teenage daughter has been speaking with me.
Facing truth can be tough. Really tough. I make my kids do it. We all have to look in our own mirror also. She made me do that. For a long time she wouldn’t look at me, let alone speak. It was because all I did was teach. My son took to that style. So I did the same with her. But what she wants and needs is for me to listen.
So I’ve had to learn and grow. I have this internal timer that goes off when I’m in a conversation and it’s silent for “too long.” It’s weird because I’m comfortable sitting in quiet, be it alone or with people. But when engaged in a conversation or when I’m told my child needs my help/advice, I have a different expectation. Silence becomes an issue at that point. But I’ve learned to keep quiet longer and she opens up.
It’s hard but we’re getting through it. She’s opening up and we’re reconnecting.
Yours in Health,
Dr. Nardi
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