Anyone else have trouble with relationships?
One thing I do my best to teach my kids is that in many relationships, there is always one key. You can say and do many things thinking you are helping another feel loved. You MUST do the one thing. And, that one thing is different for each of us.
In his book The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman describes five ways a person feels love. They are: Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. All are helpful. Each helps us achieve that interpersonal connection we all want and need in life.
Most people have one language that matters most to them. Figure that one out and then repeatedly give it to them. They’ll feel better about the relationship and you’ll feel better having helped them feel better. Withholding that one language can actually damage the relationship, so be mindful. No amount of the other four languages can achieve what a single act of their love language can.
Yes, there are many other ways to aid a relationship. This is one tool. If you haven’t read the book or looked at their website, I highly suggest it.
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